I have a question though.
Stephan´s colleague´s getting married this Saturday and we´re invited. It´d be a 10 - 12noon ceremony in a castle in Ludwigsburg and I don´t know what to wear!
I have this white dress (photo) which I bought from Singapore and which I really want to wear for this wedding since there´s hardly any other occasions to wear such a formal dress.
Problem: In Germany, its considered like taboo to wear white at a wedding, cos only the bride is supposed to be white. (How would I have known right? Had I known, I wouldn´t have bought a white dress in Singapore) Anyways, point is, I´m stuck with a beautiful, white dress which I´m hoping to wear more than once, other than Jen´s wedding in May.
So, I´m thinking if I can accessorize or smth, so that if I´m not completely white, it might work out? Any ideas? Or better still, any photos of like white-but-not-so-white ideas, for a white dress? Hope I´m making sense here.....
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Hey sis,
being German I would strongly recommend not to wear the white dress to the wedding - with our without 'amending' it or making it more colourful. Maybe you can wear it to a party and make it less formal for that? People here in England don't wear white either, it's just one of those unspoken rules. Sorry, guess that wasn't much help but would strongly recommmend not to. I don't think that I would like it if I was getting married either (again, the German coming through here). It's different if it's a flowery dress with white background obviously but all white is a big no-no...
Sorry, lots of love, thinking of you two in those exam paper days (and any other day really),
jie jie xx
Hey Pris
I read up on wearing a white dress to weddings in Germany. Clearly, it's a no-no unless you are the bride. May want to get a new dress or dress up another with chic accessories. H&M has pretty nice accessories, such as dangle earrings and choker necklaces. Sorry my dear, I know this is not much of help, but better follow the custom.
Dear jie jie!
Thanks so much for your timely response. I´ve asked 2 other german women already and they both said the same thing as you. So I shall not wear the white dress then. **such a pity** but I think its better to wear smth appropriate than to wear smth I want and end up offending people. :) Thanks again dear! Shall just dig out smth that I have and wear that instead....
Dear Cyn! SO sweet of you to research for me...I researched too, but not super a lot...just enough to get scared about wearing a white dress, that´s why I blogged about it. I don´t think I´ll buy a new dress since I hardly know the bride and don´t want to spend a fortune on a dress that I don´t wear often, but I´d probably dig up smth from my wardrobe. Thanks again!
Yeah wearing white to a wedding if you aren't the bride is defintely a big no no in Europe and may be considered rude too. And since it is autumn in Europe now, it might also be inappropriate and too cold to wear that short bustier dress. Plus, I am sure there is an unwritten rule in European church weddings whereby guests are not supposed to wear shoulder exposing or bustier tops.
Dear anonymous,
that is definitely right. Especially in Italy and Spain the women will wear pashminas etc. to cover their shoulders. I guess the more catholic it gets, the more covered up you are meant to be in church. Hence if you go to Rome to see St Peter's Basilica they will not let you in if you are not covered up appropriately. Bit like visiting the palace in Bangkok I guess.
Sorry Pris, seems you like you have to wear one of your 'old' dresses again...
x
Hey anonymous. Thks 4 commenting. I´m afraid this would be the last anonymous comment I´m allowing, as my latest blog entry would clearly explain. Appreciate your comments so they are usually very insightful and helpful. However, it bugs me that I don´t know who you are and I doubt that I know you in reality. Do introduce yourself,I´m not that bad a person.
Oh nooo! I typed one long msg to you and its gone! Boy! Bugger!
Anyways, I´ve decided yesterday that I wouldn´t wear the white dress. The wedding wld be in a castle, so church rules wouldn´t apply in this case. Anyways regardless of the venue, out of respect for the bride, I´ve decided to wear one of my "old" dresses. Would be interesting to see what I can dig out or mix-and-match from my wardrobe. Will see.
You'll be fine, I've seen some pretty dresses of yours. :)
And wouldn't allow anyone to comment either if they can't say who they are. I think that you should be able to say your name if you are commenting. Otherwise it can come across as being cowardly and that's not the way to be.
xx
Dear Jie jie! Thanks for your show of support! :) So so nice! For a while I was getting worried that I accidentally deleted your comment! Turns out that you commented on this post and not on the one that I thought. Will take photos tomorrow and blog about it k? Still haven´t decided what to wear.
Never know that in Europe the people are generally more conservative than those Asians. It is indeed very sad to see Asian values eroding so much so that alot of youngsters just care less of their testimonies of wearing exposing limbs, flesh to none other than we call it church..the house of God! It is an eye opener to us and hopefully those aliens who are living now in Europe could pick up the correct dress sense and pass it to their friends at their local homes...3 cheers to Europe for the good value!
I think it's the same too in US that only the Bride wears white... but I didn't care about it and got my matron of honor and the girls in white! Was too stressed out with other things about the wedding...
Hey Candy, its so sweet that you´re like reading all my outdated post entries! :) Your bridesmaids wore white at your wedding? Interesting! Can I take a look at your photos?
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